We have a serious problem in our society- we are spending too much time talking negatively about others.
Think your words and the way you speak about others doesn’t impact your own joy and peace? Think again! In this episode I’m breaking down the importance of talking kindly of others and how to retrain your brain to be more kind and accepting. Five steps to start having more positive views of others which in turn will bring more joy and happiness into your own life! Share with a friend and let’s talk about it on social! Tag me and share the episode with your thoughts! Let’s break down the 5 steps a little bit, and tune in to hear the entire episode and all my advice for breaking out of the habit of yucky talk.
Step 1: Become aware of your thoughts
Thoughts are running on autopilot constantly. It seems obvious that we are thinking and we are aware that there is brain activity at every given second of the day. But are you actually PAYING ATTENTION to your stream of consciousness? Are you aware of the conversations happening in your head? The constant narrative? This is where you MUST start to begin to overcome negative speech…within the very thoughts that are giving life to those words. When you become aware of the fact that you are thinking and become an observer of your thoughts, you start controlling and responding more intentionally and avoid the autopilot negative speech that may have a tendency to spill out!
Step 2: Ask yourself WHY this triggers you
Before you speak a negative word, you begin with a negative thought. Those negative thoughts are results of triggers. So, ask yourself WHY this triggers you to think the thoughts you are experiencing. What about this person or experience is bringing up negative feelings for you? Negative is not just anger or frustration, it’s annoyance, embarrassment, feeling uneasy. If you can locate the trigger, you can have a little dialogue with yourself to understand what in the past or present is effecting you and what stories might be contributing to your adverse reaction. Usually what we don’t like about others is a reflection of something we don’t like or fear about ourselves!
Step 3: Resist the urge to indulge
How can you resist the urge to talk negatively? Seems pretty obvious, but how much self control do you have when it comes to gossip or speaking ill of others? We all like to point the finger at others, but when we do we have three fingers pointing right back at us! If you struggle with this, you need to get into a practice of holding your tongue and experiencing the satisfaction that comes (although it’s a different type of satisfaction) from not indulging the negative thought. Everything starts with the mind so if you are able to overcome the first couple of steps and really think things through, you’ll avoid the action involved with speaking negatively…the actual speaking part!
Step 4: Find a new release
To avoid talking negatively, find something positive to replace the thought with. If you are inclined to negative thought patterns, this may not come as natural. We tend to self preserve and evaluate others as instant enemies- deciding whether it is safe to allow them into our space, or even to exist in our world. We want to protect the ego and the identity, so we are on guard most times. But what happens when you start working on that knee jerk reaction and instead choose to have a positive impression of people and observe their strengths instead of finding their flaws or the things you don’t like about them? I’ll tell you what happens…you begin to understand charity and true love for others. It’s fulfilling and blissful!
Step 5: Create boundaries and SPEAK UP
Your best behavior doesn’t match well with the toxicity of others. If you are hanging around people and your relationship is built upon gossip and talking negatively about others, then it’s time to reevaluate your relationship. Are under the illusion that people who talk about others TO you are not talking ABOUT you when you leave the room? If so, it’s time for a wake up call! As awesome as you are, there are people who only elevate themselves by tearing others down, and that includes you. The quicker you accept this and start being the light in the room instead of the person people want to run to to validate their own negative thoughts, the sooner you’ll be free from toxic energy and the yuck that comes from talking negatively about others.
Listen in to the entire episode to hear me explain these concepts in more detail!
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